That's a risk of barn cats. They live a shorter life, but if you're willing to care for a barn cat, there are also always more to adopt.

Would never turn a kitten into a barn cat, only adults that are already mostly feral.

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It depends on what time you commute. There is super express train from New Haven that is ideal. So I'd you hut that it's not terrible. Ao you could live north of New Haven maybe

There are baits that don't have secondary poisoning. Mouse-x for example, is effectively potato starch.

When choosing bait, go for the ones that are safe from secondary.

2+ hours each way from Milford to West Hartford? Is she walking?

Wife and I are here from Chicago checking out towns and houses this week. Let’s just say the taxes ain’t as bad here in CT and you get more house for the price.

Somewhere along Route 8. Train to NYC from bridgeport. Drive north to west hartford.

As repeated by many posters, this is a terrible commute to balance for the two of you.

Will second UHART. Their community school staff is fantastic.

Will make a recommendation for Daniel Brevik. He's a fantastic performer and I think he still teaches private lessons.

Bethel is a pretty good answer and you don’t always have to switch trains if you get on at the right time. If you can get some work done on the train it’s a decent solution.

Relatedly, the Fairfield Metro (not ffld downtown) station is great for commuters. Enormous parking lot and it’s easy and quick to navigate/walk into the station from the lot… that may sound granular but in the mornings sometimes these little things make a difference! It’s much much easier than leaving from more crowded stations with packed parking like New Haven, and parking fees are low. If you don’t move to a town with a station right in town, this is still an easy station to park at and commute out of. It’s ~1h20m to GCT, no transfers.

if the moneys there id commute two hours 🤷‍♂️

A new job, unfortunately. Bad situation to be in, you'll probably lose a year off your life in the next decade waiting in your car

University of Hartford, maybe? Really strong music program in general.

there are direct trains during peak. Still goes through SoNo, but no transfer.

Good luck finding something ..

There is no job worth this. There are studies about job satisfaction and commute and these are just not worth it. They’re each looking at a 2+ hour commute each way, best case scenario. 4+ hours per day, each. Nope.

They're in a very tough spot, but I'm guessing these are very good jobs. I still think my answer of Milford is the best option. One metro north train down to NYC, and a 60 to 90 minute drive to West Hartford.

There is no right answer. This is an awful situation.

I'm spoiled taking it out of Bridgeport (I live in Shelton). Just one train down.

There are a variety of options. Living in north haven/Wallingford area would put you close to getting in metro north in New Haven. You could also do Naugatuck or beacon falls area and get on metro north to connect in Bridgeport. I’d consider other factors as far as what you’re looking for in a town as well. If you need a realtor lmk!

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I’ve taken the train out of Bethel and switched in SoNo or in Stamford on occasion. It’s like three minutes standing on the platform.

I'm still concerned about the train thing. They OP would still have to ride down to South Norwalk and switch to a different train.

Probably somewhere between New Haven and Hartford. It's two hours from New Haven to NYC. Less than an hour to West Hartford anywhere in between. Really depends on what the budget is.

If this person wants a richer town than Milford, as I recommended, than I would say go with Trumbull. Fairfield to West Hartford would be traffic heavy, since they have to get past Bridgeport first. The drive from Trumbull to the Bridgeport train station is really quick, and there's a parking garage (OP's post said company covers parking and the train). The drive from Trumbull to West Hartford is a little better too, and I'm kind of biased because I grew up in Trumbull, but I think it's better than Fairfield for a fraction of the price.