I'm trying to get into Florida

We are full

Nobody who is from Connecticut would agree with you unless it's in August or September

West Haven or New Haven. You can take the train from either spot for New York and then a 1h to 1.5h ride to West Hartford.

New Haven!!

My neighbor is a vocal instructor and she’s awesome. Her music was featured on a few Netflix shows recently — super talented. DM me and I can share her contact info. We are on the shoreline but she does zoom classes too.

Also the coffee shop is quite good!

This is the way.

I mean, you can weigh out personal preference of public transit or driving but either way, it's going to take a toll on you. Even if the money is good and you LOVE the job, it's going to take a toll. I just left a job that was good money that I loved because the 50 min each way commute was harder than the acutely mentally unstable patients I served all day. Literally. I wish you luck!

Send me a picture of your wife, maybe I could take care of her, sounds like you won’t be around much

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If you like singing rock or lighter music, I recommend you join School of Rock in West Hartford or East Hartford. They do voice lessons and you play with other people live every 3-4 months. It’s $350 a month and it includes a 45 minute private lesson and a 1.5 hour rehearsal with others a week.

i didnt expect that thorough a response 💀

I prefer being in my own car personally to public transit. Plus if his job isn't near grand central, he'd need to take a cab or subway after metro north. Driving into NYC isn't that bad if you time it to avoid rush hour.

> They’re each looking at a 2+ hour commute each way

What? It literally takes 2 hours to get from West Hartford to NYC. This is mathematically impossible. Yes, traffic is a factor, but if OP lives close to a Metro North train station and his wife is driving against traffic the majority of the way, neither of them should be going much more than maybe 80-90min max from a halfway-point home.

and thats also the rush hour corridor. Thats a fairfield county thing

glows brighter than chernobyl

I mean, I drive about an 1.5 hours from Trumbull near the Merritt to Stamford, and that's one way and only like 25 miles.

First place that popped into my mind was Danbury/adjacent towns (Bethel, Brookfield, possibly some parts of New Fairfield or Southeast, NY) . Long but easy train ride into the city from Southeast (90min + however long it takes to drive to the station), and roughly 1h drive to West Hartford, against traffic the vast majority go the way.

How about Westbrook? You could jump on the train in old saybrook and she would drive 45 minish

Is that you Ray Epps?

Great advice in here but it’s worth echoing the fact that this scenario sucks. I work 4 10-hour days in my pajamas. I recommend it.

Outdoor cat?

Milford/orange

Cats are an invasive species, and should be kept indoors or out on a leash. They also suck at controlling mice populations.