Then I am sorry, but if I was the guy, I wouldn't stick around unless they are trying to get help. Are you seeing a professional about your trauma?

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Please describe what you mean by pushing away? Because tbf, if he wanted to commit he would.

I think you’re hitting the nail on the head here. I say this a single mother: the moment my partner took on some childcare and I could start leaving the house for a few hours every now and again, my life changed. That mental break is so important. Find ways for your wife to spend some time away from the kids, just for herself, even once a week for an hour or two. It will help.

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Yeah I understand it could read like I'm resentful but he still does it, not as crass, but practically to everyone he feels slighted about. Under his breath and sometimes quite nasty.

He definitely hates his job, I'm trying to be supportive, but he was the same when he has a couple months of paid redundancy, it's constant. That's why I thought about getting him into stoicism etc.

That's an easy fix. Get some dog safe bones, chews, stuffed Kong, toy etc so the dog is kept busy. Keep food off the counter. Set down some boundaries in your home. Get a kiddie gate so dog stays in its own area. Lots of solutions for your problem.

If you care for your friend absolutely try to make it work. Sounds like you don't though. If one of my friends made a post like this I'd honestly rather find a new friend. My friends are my chosen family and id be so grateful to help them in their time of need

Bye 🙂

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Work on myself by myself?

Her family is very poor so she was never able to do much for me that cost money but when she had money she would buy me small things and it meant the world to me

I find reasons why I shouldn’t be with him. I’ve genuinely said my actions towards him come across toxic and I need to work on myself

Yes ma’am you missed MY point. Bye!!

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>I have pushed him away a bunch due to childhood trauma creating it difficult for me to feel safe with trust in relationships.

how about you work on yourself for awhile? you have to accept you are in a situation ship of your own making.

Ugh. That sucks.

If she’s barking and you work from home and have to do meetings then I get it. Probably time to tell friend that doggo needs to go somewhere—either another friend or a boarding kennel as it’s impacting your ability to do your job.

Made me feel loved, appreciated the effort I made (until this year) and was there for me when no one else was.

What are u asking? It sounds like ur the only thing stopping a relationship. What exactly does “pushing him away” even mean? I won’t lie this sounds kinda toxic for him. U should choose either u wanna be with him or u don’t and go from there. I mean it’s been p damn long

That’s a good idea. I can’t stop my workday to take her for a walk every time she gets hyper. I even thought of hiring someone on Rover to help out.

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What did she do for you?

No. She dumped you instead of cheating. I don’t see how it matters. I hurts either way. Focus on you. You’re in for it, healing is hard.

Don't feel too bad, this sort of thing happens. I'd say apologize to your neighbour, explain how it happened, and tell them the steps you're taking to deal with the issue. Beyond that, no need to do anything. They'll likely appreciate knowing that you're handling the situation.

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Thank you. I just texted him: “Hey . Thank you for expressing you feelings to me I really appreciate it. I think we both need time to focus on ourselves again. If you are still interested we can reconnect later on. We can just stay as friends. I hope you have a great day so far. :)” I’ll just focus on myself for a while I guess. I will be better and get back to him(if I still like him). Thank you so much for leaving kind messages.