Submitted by ThrowRA00265 t3_zsm0gq in relationship_advice
I'll get to the point.
Been with this woman for 5 months, we have sex fairly often (couple times a week). Recently she wasn't feeling well so went to a doctor to get tested as she's never had an STD test before, comes back as Chlamydia. I decide to get a test too as if she caught it before us, I definitely have it (we don't use protection) and if I had it first, I very much need to get it sorted out.
Got the results today and its negative. I'm apparently completely clean. Told her this and she made a comment, pretty upset, that I would think she cheated on me, which I told her I didn't and are just confused, but the thought admittedly eats at me.
I know the chance the test is wrong is probably wishful thinking, but is there a way to catch it not from sexual activity and what is the likelihood it wouldn't pass onto me?
Edit: Yes, I agree i should've gotten tested at the start, but given I have only ever slept with one person prior to this and believed her when she said she hasn't seen anyone in over a year- plus assumed she knew about STD tests and would've had a test at some point between then and now, I figured it was fine, I am fully fine with being called a fucking idiot over that assumption because that's kind of not what I'm upset about. As for condoms, she's allergic to latex and again, I rolled dice on something I shouldn't have.
I'm honestly kind of breaking down internally over all this. Thank you everyone for the advice and information. I'm going to take another test to be sure and if its negative, I will be talking with her on this.