Submitted by throwRAtgrnew t3_10620re in relationship_advice
Yeah, you read that right. My wife recently confessed to me that she is developing romantic feelings for a coworker of hers.
So I have been married to her for 3 years and together for 6 years now. She works in a male dominated field but we never had an issue before. Recently their company has laid off a bunch of people so the workload on them has increased a bit. And as a result she was working very closely with this guy and well working together in high stress environment led her to develop some feelings for him. She came to me immediately and we talked about how to address it as a team. She put in for a transfer to a different branch and till the transfer comes through she will be working from home. We are attending marriage counselling and she is also doing individual counselling. We are also doing more datenights and other stuff where we spend quality time together. She is very remorseful and vows to everything in her power to make it right with me.
It has been a month and recently I have been feeling really angry at her, like how could you do that? I work in auditing and sometimes I have to work for 16 hours with my women teammates and yet I have never developed anything for them? But she did? I am feeling that I no longer want to make it work and just ask for a divorce. But then it might be just passing anger for me and maybe I will regret my decision later on. I am so angry and confused guys, just dont know wtf am I doing. I would love some advice from people who might have been in my shoes.
Edit/Update- I have decided to ask for a separation for 3 or 6 months and we will both be free to do what we want during this period. I will ask her to give it a try with her coworker or with there are anymore crushes she has. After the 3 months are over then we will meet again to decide if we want to continue the marriage or end it.