Submitted by ThrowRA7685 t3_106smex in relationship_advice
He doesn't want kids. He says he wants them in over a decade from now. I am 35. I don't want to have kids at that age. We have been married for 4 years and this was not the plan. I tried to talk to him about this today and he replied with "are you leaving me?". I said "I never said that". I honestly don't know the answer. Can you overcome this difference?
Extras: hides his phone, hides his computer, the sex is not great (that would be a whole other thread... he mostly masturbates because he doesn't want to have vaginal sex. He is THAT afraid of having kids), we have no intimacy (the man doesn't touch my face - or any part of my body other than my breasts). Our kisses are just touching lips because he is disgusted of saliva (so yeah, you can imagine the oral sex is not two way).
I love him, but I don't see this changing. This makes me so sad. I feel so insecure.
When I think of splitting up I spiral into even more depression and desperation because of the corner I put myself into. I currently don't have the financial means to support myself. I have no savings. I don't know if I even have any options at this point.
I would love some input in my situation. I feel like I already know the answer, but I don't know how to get there