So I (F24) have been going out with this guy Mike(M27) for about a month. We haven't done anything besides making out and handjobs. this is where the tension lies, I wanted to wait a little bit before I had sex with him. You didn’t understand why. I told him I just wanted to wait for a little bit longer. I am ashamed of my addiction. I am seeking therapy for it and I'm working on my truma. I don't know if I'm ready to go full blown with him yet.. And at this point I don't know if it's healthy for me even to be engaging in any sexual activity. Well he's somehow found out. He told me that I should have just told him. He said that since I have this addiction I should be fine with sleeping with him. I don't want to fall back into old habits and idk if i am ready to go full sex with him yet. I am willing to do other stuff with him just not penetrative sex .But he still pressing me about the sex matter. I don't think I'm ready now. I don't think I'll be ready for a while. Our relationship is kind of strained right now. I really like him, I just don’t know what to do.
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After a flood of commets, I will be inviting him over and talking to him about all of this. I will keep you guys posted
This is the next day. So let me just explain what happened. He came over and it did not go well. I voiced my concerns and he just trampled over every single grievance I had. He called me some very nasty names. (WHICH IS NOT NEW TO ME) And during the middle of the fight he had to go to the bathroom. He was in there for about 30 minutes. I think we're probably taking a shit but I don't know. When he came out he was crying, saying that he doesn't want this to be the end of us. He just doesn't understand how I don't want to be intimate with him. he said since I've had so many partners in the past it's noy going to be a problem. I once again explained my addiction to how it materialises in real life. He said since it's a relationship it's not going to happen like that. (If people want me to make a different post about how I struggle with my addiction and explain how it is and was for me, I will). He was basically bawling saying that he doesn't want this to be the end. I said I cannot have a relationship and also have sex right now. I said just give me some time. He says he doesn't have time and if I'm not going to give him sex he should just leave. Then I told him to leave. He ended up getting very angry and called me a slut. And I told him I'm not the one that's begging for sex. Then he left. So yeah and this is my story.
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I saw a comment that made a really good point that I did not mention in my original post. To clarify when he found out I did explain what it looks like to be a sex addict and how I was like. Multiple times I asked him if he understood what I was saying. He said he did. I even explained what it was like for my past partners. I couldn't go an hour without sex at one point. He said he understood every single time I asked. I don't blame anyone that left a comment saying that he was misinformed. Because you don't have the information that he was informed.
TL;DR: I broke up with my boyfriend because he didn't understand my sex addiction